Traverse City, Michigan

Discerning your vocation?

Postulant in our woodsGood Shepherd StatueLooking onto our cloister gardenReception of the habit

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We would like to share some basic advice about discerning a vocation.

First of all, do not attempt to discern between marriage and religious life simultaneously. Both are beautiful and thus both will be attractive in turn, causing endless confusion and doubts. If you think God might be calling you to religious life, set aside a time period for serious discernment in which you will not date or consider marriage as a possibility, but focus only on exploring various options for consecrated life. In the same way, while discerning marriage, avoid looking at convent literature!

While discerning religious life, it can be counterproductive to begin by planning visits to several convents, since visits can be expensive for you and a lot of work for a community. Rather, narrow down your search by doing plenty of research first. Whether you are unsure which form of religious life God may be calling you to, or you feel drawn to Carmel but are not sure which monastery is best for you, you can use the Internet to gain information about many communities easily.

Listen to your heart’s response to what you read about the founder, spirit, and aims of each. Even within an Order of cloistered nuns, each monastery has its own unique history and traditions which may or may not speak to your heart. Sometimes it is very little things that attract us to one convent rather than another, and this may even seem silly, but it can be God’s way of showing you where you belong, and so these little things should be paid attention to. Of course, there are big things that are absolutely required first, such as obedience to the Church’s constant teaching about religious life, and fidelity to the spirit of the founder. But after you have assured yourself that a community is living religious life authentically, then you can pay attention to the little things to decide whether or not to proceed further.

The next step is to narrow your search down to a few communities that appeal to you most, and ask these to send you more information. Then, based on what you receive, narrow it down further to just one. Continue to move forward, learning more about the community and growing closer to them with a personal visit, as long as you continue to experience peace and joy along the way. But if you begin to feel uneasy about something you learn, pay attention to these “red flags.” Do your best to settle your doubts one way or the other, and if the answer is definitely negative, then end your correspondence with that community and begin over with one of the other communities on your short list of possibilities.

This advice of pursuing only one community in depth at a time comes from a holy and experienced abbot friend of ours, who frowns upon the current practice some young people have of visiting a long list of convents. It is extremely difficult to experience the spirit of one convent, if in the back of your mind you’re thinking about the one you just left and the others you still plan to visit. The “do-it-yourself nun run” method often ends in confusion, because you may compile a disjointed list of likes and dislikes, with possibly conflicting advice from formation directresses, instead of quietly and prayerfully discerning which charism resonates best with your unique personality and gifts. The “one convent at a time” method has been used for centuries with good results.

You may also find these websites helpful:
—Read more discernment information here.
—Learn about contemplative and monastic life at Cloistered Life.
—See our profile at the Institute on Religious Life. Then check out the rest of this wonderful website and its links to other good Catholic sites.
—If debt is an obstacle to pursuing your vocation, read this and this.
—We have compiled some additional vocational resources here.

After reading through our website and other sites, if you experience a strong attraction to our monastery, you are most welcome to request more information, which we can send to you by regular mail or electronically.

Please know that we will keep you in our prayers!

You can use the form below to contact us,
or you can write or telephone:
Mistress of Novices
Carmelite Monastery
3501 Silver Lake Road
Traverse City, MI 49684-8949
Telephone: 231-946-4960

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“Never was the contemplative vocation more precious or more relevant than in our modern restless world .”—St. John Paul II

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